I Confess: sometimes I want my son to inconvenience his dad just as much as he inconveniences me.
I’m a stay-at-home mom. But as a woman I can’t just sit and do nothing, so I try to be productive with home businesses and household chores. There is always something for me to do, in addition to taking care of my soon-to-be six months old son. And he is a busy-body! When he is awake, there is no chance of getting anything accomplished. If I try to work, he wants to get to the computer. If I try to do chores, he wants to climb out of the play yard, or slide out of his swing, or get into something other than the 5 toys I’ve sat out in front of him. He requires 100% of my attention. So my solution is to work while he sleeps. This means cramming as much as I can into a 2 hours nap period. Sometimes it means getting started and 30 minutes later getting interrupted, which drives me MAD!!
Sometimes when his dad gets home, I want to hand him over and leave the house and say “figure it out, I had to.” But of course I can’t do that. I tested the waters one day though. When dad got home I was juggling the dishes, heating a bottle, and keeping my son at bay in his stroller (I use his stroller to pacify him by rolling around the house). Daddy greeted his son by picking him up. When the greeting period was done dad says “Okay I need to go change clothes.” I responded with “okay, take him with you and put him in his play yard, that’s what I do.” And not surprisingly, about 5 minutes later I was taking my son off of dad’s hands.
I get it, as a mother I have gained this superwoman-like ability. That doesn’t mean it’s any easier, and it’s actually very inconvenient at times. But I make it work and I do what I can do and what I have to do. But sometimes, just sometimes, I want dad to walk in my shoes.