The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Who Run This?

So my boys are 8 months old, bright eyed, long and teething. In new developments they have decided to boycott bedtime. We were doing really good, we had a routine and a schedule, it was a well oiled machine I swear and then one day my boyfriend and I were overthrown. I really don’t know what happened:(, but here is my hunch. My boyfriend began working late and by the time he got home the boys and I would be cuddled up in our bed. I have to admit… I am a co-sleeper, I have found it is the only way I know that they are sleeping and plus I get to sleep uninterrupted! But it has backfired tremendously. Now they are consciously refusing to lay in their cribs to sleep. Especially, Thing 1, he is having no parts of it he screams at the top of his lungs, stands up and rocks on the crib bars, it is horrible. Thing 2 does really put up too much of a fight he won’t lay down for long though he usually rolls to his knees to watch his brother act a fool. Then after awhile he yells because his brother is getting on his nerves or he sees his brother being calmed and he wants some attention too.  We have tried the Ferber Method to no avail. Thank God for their dads’ insomnia because he usually tends to them while I get some sleep. But then by 2 am I am up trying to comfort a child. Something’s got to give! Who really runs this?

Sunday Inspiration

 “We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature – trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence… We need silence to be able to touch souls.”
Mother Teresa

Happy sunday!

Love Him Like I Do

Seduction by Nikki Giovanni

one day
you gonna walk in this house
and i’m gonna have a long African
gown
you’ll sit down and say “The Black…”
and i’m gonna take one arm out
then you-not noticing me at all- will say “What about this brother…”
and i’m going to be slipping it over my head
and you’ll rap on about “The revolution…”
while i rest your hand against my stomach
you’ll go on-as you always do- saying
“I just can’t dig…”
while i’m moving your hand up and down
and i’ll be taking your dashiki off
then you’ll say “What we really need…”
and taking your shorts off
the you’ll notice
your state of undress
and knowing you you’ll just say
“Nikki/
isn’t this counterrevolutionary…”

(taken from the book Love Poems)

Sensual Saturdays’: Video of the Day

I was six years old when this song came out and I was singing right along back then. Now that I actually understand the lyrics I do believe I needed a good whipping, SMH. Todays video comes from Mr. Barry White, his bass voice and seductive lyrics are timeless and unmistakable. His widow recently accepted a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on his behalf. Here is Barry White’s “Practice What You Preach”. 

 

I have also included a double play just in case you needed more:) here is “Never, Never Gonna Give You Up”!

Live & Love Life y’all! XOXO

 

The Moments

parentingThere are moments of parenting that really make all of the bad days worth it. The moments where your little one really makes you laugh from deep in your gut.The moments where you are truly amazed that this tiny person figured out for themselves something that we take for granted, like walking. The moments where your baby’s coos turn into audible words. The moments where no words are spoken but there is total understanding and connecting from you gazing into each others’ eyes.

Yes, parenting is grueling. Yes, parenting is tiring. Yes it is stressful. Yes it may be frightening. Yes at times you want to run away from this beautiful responsibility. Yes sometimes it makes you rethink your decision. Yes parenting is draining. It’s everything difficult disguised as a lovable, never-ending journey. But those tiny moments where you forget all of the pain, the inconvenience, the hardships, the stress, and even the sleepless nights, it’s those moments that make everything about parenting enjoyable.

Throwback Thursday Artist: Claudette Ortiz

Today’s TBT artist is the beautiful Claudette Ortiz. I am sure most of us have been watching her on R&B Divas and either we have fallen in love with her, applaud her for not acting a fool on network television or think she is just a tad bit boring and what her to turn it up just a little bit (I’m just saying). But in any case I like her and I want her to win! I was reading an interview she did with Bossip on Necole Bitche.com.

Here are a few highlights:

On the decision to do the show:Prior to the show, I had really hit rock bottom and I was at a crossroads where I just had to [do the show]. All the little odd jobs that I was doing; I was a chef in the kitchen, I tried to open my own businesses, I had my catering businesses and I had a cleaning business but those things were not enough to raise my children. So, I had to make a choice of am I going to continue going this way? Where is this going? I was like man, I guess I’ll just go to the air force reserves. […] I felt like it would pay for school. I didn’t have any degree or anything so….

I was having a rough night. I had to leave the place I was at, and I was driving with the things in my trunk and my kids were asleep and I had nowhere to go. And that night Phil Thorton from the show texted me but that night I was upset and I was crying. I was like “God, I know there are people out there that have it way worse than I have it but don’t forget about me. This is still difficult.” That’s was when I got the text. I never wanted to be a part of reality shows because I never wanted to expose my children on anything like that. 

On moving from the East coast to the West coast for the show:
When I [moved to LA] I had to move my children out of their school. It was a big move from East to West Coast and I had just left my four years of being at rock bottom. Four years of being ridiculed and scrutinized on the internet and four years of having to decide between one bill and the other and having to go to the social services building and you’re case worker recognizes you and says, “Why are you here?” It breaks you down so I was just coming out of that break down and rebuilding myself and trying to get back into the grove of being in spotlight and being in entertainment. That’s a sadness that I believe women do feel and it does show on your face, but you keep it moving, you don’t cry. You keep your head up and you keep going, even though you do have that consistent worry and heartbreak.

After reading that I loved her even more she was so candid and relatable. Many women feel like this everyday and many do not have the means or outlets to better their circumstances. But it is women like Claudette that we look up to because you give us hope to put on that brave face for our children and our tomorrow’s.

 

What Would You do?

Caramel

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