The Diary of a First Time Mom of Twins: Dear Teachers

I am a full-time working mother.  I realize this is not a new scenario; There have been infinite amounts of women before and I am sure there will be a boundless amount after me, that will be “full-time working mothers”.  So the struggle to find a safe place that is dedicated to the educational edification and personal development of our child(ren) is without a doubt an unequivocally important factor.  Especially, in today’s world with everything there is to worry about when sending our children out in to it.

I pay $300+ for daycare on a weekly basis for my sons. There are 168 hours in a week, I work at least 40-45 hours per week. My children spend roughly 50 hours in school with their teachers. The average human being should get at least 8 hours of sleep per day, which over a weeks span is a total of 56 hours. This leaves roughly 62 leisure hours to devote to my children. Please keep in mind that this excludes, household chores, cooking, cleaning, bath time, potty training and all other errands and miscellaneous.

With the obviousness being said, I would like to discuss or vent about the disconnect between (good) parents and (good) teachers. When did the disconnect happen? Sometimes I find it hard to talk to teachers because they are either frustrated either with their day or their jobs. Trust me I understand both sides because it takes a special kind of person to be an effective teacher, just like it takes a special type of person to be a parent. Both are very hard occupations. However, the warring with one another really troubles me.

One day I was walking through my sons daycare and I heard one of the teachers speaking to the older children asking them to line up and she said “Line up everybody…you all might not listen to your parents but you are going to listen to your teachers…”. I have to say that I was blown away that she would even fix her moth to say this to someones child. When did we become each others enemy, especially if both parties are actively concerned about the growth and maturation of the child(ren)? I thought we were supposed to work together to build the child into a positive and contributing citizen of the world… That is hard to do when we are not playing for the same team and demeaning one another. In no way am I asking you to parent my child but in order for us to achieve the goal we have to work together.