Confessions of a New Mom: Potty, No Potty

I confess: I’m afraid of potty training.

Mommy-ConfessionsThere. I said it. Yes, I’m afraid of potty training my two years old son. After reading countless confusing tips and hearing repeatedly that boys tend to take longer to potty train, I find myself very apprehensive to get serious about potty training. I know it’s something that must be done. And one day it will be a thing of the past. But can’t I wait until there is mutually a better understanding in our communication? Until I can say “this is what it feels like when you have to pee/poop, when you get that feeling go to the potty…”

Here’s my story:

We started potty training way too early; we began shortly after my son turned one. First mistake. In the beginning things were going great. It didn’t take much time for him to get acclimated to the potty, and every now and then he would actually pee in it. We celebrated his success with cheering and dancing and hugging and telling him that we were proud of him. Well I guess that wasn’t enough. After a while, he began boycotting the potty. He would sit on it, but would refuse to pee in it. And this is where we are stuck in our potty training challenge.

But as he grows older and continues to advance in his development I’m starting to feel guilty/lazy/anxious/embarrassed/more scared about getting serious. I have no real idea of what I’m in for and there is no exact math to how long it will actually take. The cliché “it’s a process” doesn’t cut it for me. I’ve seen books and articles claiming it will take 3 days, but that just sounds too good to be true; and furthermore, I DON’T BELIEVE IT!

So for now, I’ll continue to change diapers, I’ll continue to pretend we are attempting to really train when other moms bring it up in conversation, and I’ll continue to tell my mom “yes, he sat on the potty today, but he didn’t do anything it in.”

Pray for me y’all…and offer real advice! Please?!

One Reply to “Confessions of a New Mom: Potty, No Potty”

  1. I’ve also heard that boys are harder than girls so my advice may not be totally relevant to you, but here is goes anyway. That 3 day thing is not a myth I did it with my daughter, but we used 4 days because I had time off. I bought her big girl underwear (that I let her pick out) got a new potty (that she picked out), put all her diapers in a bag and let her throw them in the trash. (I put them in a bag so i could grab them when she wasn’t looking). Find something he really likes. For my daughter is was stickers and hand washing because she loves water and let that be their reward. Accidents will happen of course but you quickly tell them no and show them where pee/poop does really go. They start to learn being wet feels bad, but you dont scold them bad for accidents. We stayed home for those days so she wouldn’t have to put on a diaper for long car rides. Patience is key or rather not showing them frustration.

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