Sometimes You’ve Got to Let Him Know

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I had to let my man know that I appreciate him. He’s a really good man, the kind they don’t make any more. And while he knows that I love him, sometimes a man just needs to hear it.

I have been up and down, in and out of a rut since I gave birth. I lost my job and my emotions have been all over the place. And even though I know it’s gotten on his nerves at times, he hasn’t blown up on me. He works hard at a 9-5 every day and runs his own business on the side, he cooks every day, he spends time with our son every day which gives me a little break, he helps his parents out every time they need it, makes sure the bills are paid, makes sure I have money in my pocket, and still finds time to encourage me, support me and my dreams, and keep me positive. Even though I see him do it, I don’t know how he does it all.

You know the old saying “give me my flowers while I can still smell them,” well that’s just what I did. I pointed out all that he does and let him know I am grateful. I stroked his ego. Every man needs and wants his ego stroked every now and again. But I also wanted him to know that I notice all that he does and I’m thankful. Don’t assume someone will automatically know. Say it, tell them, and then they’ll know for sure. Whether it’s “I love you,” or “thank you,” or whatever, sometimes you just got to let them know.

It Takes a Village to Raise a Child…and to Keep It’s Mother Sane

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I received an unexpected text from the wife of a former coworker the other day. She gave birth to a baby girl a few weeks after I had my son. I never spoke directly with her while either of us were pregnant, nor did I authorize her husband to give her my phone number. But her text made me feel so good. She wanted to get together with the babies some time, to work out, go for a walk, go shopping, or just hang. My community of moms continues to grow and I never thought I’d even have one to begin with.

I thought my “village” would consist of mainly family, aunts, sisters, my mother and soon to be mother-in-law, etc. But I’m finding that I am so far from being alone in the newness of motherhood and it’s helping in more ways than one. I’m able to get out of the house and not be the only “baby mama” in the place. It’s giving me a chance to get moving, handle business, and really know that all of the things I’ve been feeling are normal, common, and okay to feel. 

I’m also able to help other new moms. Even though every pregnancy and parenting experience is different, it helps to discuss, exchange ideas and stories and suggestions. I can also get rid of all the stuff my son can’t use like bottles he doesn’t like and clothes he can’t fit. 

I said all that to say I’m excited to see my village grow. I appreciate all the love and support I get to give and receive. And another perk it brings for the future is that my son won’t have to party with all adults at his first birthday (I just hate that for kids).